My Top Five

The past few of weeks-news wise-has been very maddening for me! Here are the top 5 things that have just set me off in the past few weeks.

#1- Parents that keep the babies gender hidden from society because they don't want their children labeled! (http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/couple-finally-reveals-childs-gender-five-years-birth-180300388.html)

Give me a fuckin break!! Look, I agree that there are too many pressures these days; girls to be girly, boys to be masculine, dress, look, act a certain way to be accepted...but this shit has always happened and always will! You wanna break the trend start in your home, but not while stripping your child of their gender!! Gender is a part of us, it is helps mold us into the person we are suppose to be! If little boy A wants to play with dolls, then let him!! If little girl A wants to play with car/trucks, then let her! However, to not share with them our knowledge as parents and let them know that not all people in the world will be accepting of that, then I think we as parents have failed them!! My son plays dress-up with my daughter, sometime he even puts on her princess dresses...I giggle cause it's cute, I don't encourage it, but I equally don't stifle it!! However if he wanted to go to school in a Cinderella shirt I would be inclined to explain to him that he might be made fun of, not to hurt him, but to keep him from getting hurt!! See how easy that is...you allow them to be them, make their own decisions (to a point) but at the same time you are educating them to the reality of the cruelty of this society! The idiot mother in this article states;

''Sasha dresses in clothes he likes -- be it a hand-me-downs from his sister or his brother. The big no-no's are hyper-masculine outfits like skull-print shirts and cargo pants. In one photo, sent to friends and family, Sasha's dressed in a shiny pink girl's swimsuit. "Children like sparkly things," says Beck. "And if someone thought Sasha was a girl because he was wearing a pink swimming costume, then what effect would that have? "

**WARNING..foul language ahead**
Are you shitting me!? I haven't heard that much bullshit come out of one person in a LONG time!! How the fuck are you encouraging them to be who they are if ''skull shirts and cargo pants'' aren't ok, but ''a shiny pink girl's swimsuit'' is!? AND then she has enough nerve to question what effect that might have!!! Let me clue you in you clueless bitch....the effect it's gonna have is *my mommy MUST have wanted a girl because she let's me wear girl clothes but not boy clothes!!

Let me make one thing clear, I AM NOT anti-gay!! I don't want anything I have said to be taken that way!! If one of my children came to me one day and told me they were gay, I would still be the most loving supportive mother!! But there is a huge difference between forcing your children into typical stereotypes (which was her reasoning) and teaching them how to love one another, and be accepting of all those who don't look or act like you!! I see bullying in this kids future, not because his parents let him dress in a girls swimsuit but because they didn't teach him how to be strong, hold his head up and be proud of the little boy he is!!

#2- Modern Family asked to not air the episode with Lily cussing (to which they said eff you we're airing it!!)
http://www.usmagazine.com/entertainment/news/modern-family-toddler-lily-2-drops-f-bomb-on-controversial-episode-2012191

Let me start by saying this...FUNNIEST SHOW ON TV and best episode in a long time!

To quote one of the opposers:
"It is certainly in poor taste," Melissa Henson, the director of communications and public education for PTC told Fox411 before the episode aired. "The more we see and hear this kind of language on television, the more acceptable and common it will become in the real world. Since television is constantly adding to the likelihood that children will be exposed to this kind of language, we will naturally see more and more children eventually emulate that behavior.''

OK, with that out of the way....really people??? Get over yourself, YOU have the power to turn the F(beep)ING channel!! That's one thing we grown ups have as a right, to watch a certain TV show or to not watch a certain TV show...AND, they bleeped the word out!! You didn't even hear it, the word used was assumed!! They didn't even let the little actor say the word, they coached her to say 'fudge' on set!!
The other thing we as adults/parents can do is... (wait for it) filter/screen what our children watch and do not watch on TV!! (don't ya just love being in charge!?) I for one DVR Modern Family because I don't want my kids to watch it and then I watch it when my kids are in bed (*hands over mouth*...yes even YOU can do that!!).
If you are a parent and have stubbed your toe and said 'dammit that hurt' in front of your 2 yr old, I guarantee that at some point in the near future your precious 2 yr old is gonna hurt his/her self and say 'dammit that hut'!!! Then we as parents giggle (only for the slightest second) and proceed to explain that we don't say that cause it's a bad word and that mommy should have never said that!! See that's the way MOST parents work!! WE aren't perfect, we didn't get a damn manual on 'How To Raise Perfect Children' because you see perfect is an urban legend! Perfect is reserved for assholes that think entirely too much of themselves...so if you are raising a ''perfect'' child, the you sir/madam are raising an asshole!!

#3- I am SO sick of political stereotypes and all the hate (in politics) these days!! We have all heard the political stereotypes being thrown around by both political parties – Republicans are old white men, Democrats care about the poor – blah, blah. There are dozens of these stereotypes for each party. But how many people do you know that do not match the common political stereotypes for their party?? Before I go any further I will try to list as many of these stereotypes as I can. I know I will miss some so feel free to remind me.

Democrats – weak on defense, intellectual, environmentalist, gay, anti-business, young, hippies, pro-choice, pro-UN, socialist, communist, anarchist, anti-American, pro-gun control, support higher taxes, support big government, multicultural, progressive, support redistribution of wealth, pro-science, anti-rich, cultured, Pro-free expression, for the common man/woman, inclusive, fans of pop/rock or hip-hop music, media friendly, pro-labor, New England-er, Liberal, liar, pro-separation of church and state

Republican – racist, warmonger, white, male, pro-business, anti-worker, fundamentalist Christian, Nazi, fascist, redneck, pro-personal responsibility, likes country music, ignorant, uneducated, not worldly, isolationist, intolerant, pro-gun, greedy, exploitative, rude, cowboy, NASCAR fan or sports fan in general, Southern, Conservative, anti-old people, hunter, rich, pro-life, anti-gay, anti-science, creationists, against the Arts, pro-censorship, liar, pro school prayer

OK, I know that these lists are not complete and I know that there are some on here that you might disagree with or feel are inaccurate. That is the point of stereotypes – they do not have to be accurate and frequently are very inaccurate. Take a look at the list. How many of these stereotypes match your beliefs and your party affiliation?

Here are my political beliefs, you tell me what party I belong to!
-I am a white female who believes in personal responsibility.
-I believe that welfare is good, but MUST have regulations to limit abuse.
-I am a believer of God who loves Heavy Metal, Rock and some Rap music. (and Justin Beiber)
-I am immensely interested in science and technology and believe that many of society’s problems will be/can be solved by the proper application of both.
-I believe in free markets and free trade.
-I do not want higher taxes but understand it's the end game (at some point) to get out of our country's debt.
-I do not like the UN but I am not an isolationist.
-I do not hunt or want my children to.
-I am not rich.
-I am pro-choice, yet I would not choose to have an abortion.
-I believe that all gays should have the same rights as myself.
-I believe that evolution is more likely than creationism to be able explain human origins, but still go to church and believe in most of the teachings.
-I have attended college but I have no degree, yet.
-I think that immigration is important to the future of the country, but I support English only rules for government and schools.
-I think the US-Mexico boarder is in need of greater security (as is the US-Canadian boarder), but I also think we need to make it easier for Mexicans to enter the country legally.
-I love art and music in all of its forms but I do not think the government should spend the people’s money supporting it, except in schools!
-I am not worried about the outsourcing of jobs to other countries, but I also think there should be incentives for companies to stay in America.
-I am against censorship but I think most people have no idea what censorship really is (it's more than cuss words and nudity people).
-I am a Patriot, but I really love our friends from all over the planet (no matter what country you are from).
-I hate Michael Moore!!!!
-I did not vote for Obama (frankly don't think he's a good POTUS), but I have NEVER and will never disrespect his office!

So there you have it, what party do I belong too? How do you fit into the common stereotypes? Do you think that the political parties do a good job representing your views? I believe that both the Democrat Party and the Republican Party have gone to the extreme in many of their views and have forgotten that most people are in the middle!

#4- If I wanna call my kid an asshole, It's my right!!
The other day I was reading a blog (which I LOVE) called Scary Mom (http://www.scarymommy.com/). She had posted a blog in which she called her oldest child a lazy asshole. A few days later she had to post a disclaimer saying that if you don't like what I write then don't read my blog! Seriously, the poor woman got hate e-mails telling her she was a horrible mother for saying that!! To clarify...she didn't call her oldest child-to their face-that they were a lazy asshole, she said it on her blog...a blog that she has stated many time her children are not allowed to read (they are young)! WOW, some people need to get a life....she isn't beating them! Here are a list of some of the things I've said about my kids (NOT TO THEM), mainly to my sister, my SIL, my husband (their father), and my friends:
-He's acting like an asshole
-She's acting like a little bitch
-He's acting like a little bitch
-He really needs to grow a pair of balls
-I'm gonna punch him/her in the face if they don't stop whining
-Her voice is like nails on a fucking chalkboard
-If I have to dress one more Barbie I might stab her with it
-They are sucking my will to live
-If I step on one more Lego I'm gonna stab him in the foot with it and see how he likes it
-I have to go a beat their asses now
-If they don't shut up and eat I'm gonna starve them to death and see if they shut up about food then

I'm sure the list could go on! We as parents say many things out of anger/exhaustion but what makes a good parent and one with a decent sense of humor is one that can say these things without our kids hearing (like a fuckin ninja parent)!! I mean I LOVE them more than I love myself...do you really think, I think my boy is an asshole!? I think he can act like one, but I also know I can act like a bitch and I'm not...ok well maybe I am!! The point here is if someone wants to call CPS on me because I am having an adult night with my hubby and I say I'm gonna stab my babygirl with a Barbie, then GO THE HELL FOR IT!!! You know what they will find when they get here? A home that is so full of love it is bursting! So screw you goody-two-shoes!!

#5- The Texas Ranger's just signed a 25yr old Japanese pitcher to a 6yr, 60MILLION $$ deal!! Darvish is his name...60 MILLION! All I have to say is where the fuck is the Occupy movement!? I'm gonna encourage a new movement~Occupy Professional Sports/Hollywood~because they are the most over-paid, over-rated members of society!! You want redistribution of wealth Occupy that bitches!!

Please God!

*this post should be considered answered, because God got to my prayer before i could post it:)

I always find Christmas shopping for my kids both fun and depressing.  We dont buy them anything during the year, so they are so excited and appreciative.
All of their friends, on the other hand, are the complete opposite.

Every time they go to walmart, something new is in the cart, and their rooms are overflowing with crap that they dont treat well, and have broken and shoved everywhere.
I got Giada her first Lalaloopsy doll this year.  I was quick to find out from all the moms, that their kids (age 4 mind you) already had all of them, and they were getting them 3 new ones this year.  3??  wth?  why??
Nicko was allowed this year to ask his grandparents for a Nintendo DS.  I knew they would buy it, and was excited for him.  He also let me know that all of his friends at school have had one since they were 4.  Are you freaking kidding me??
Dimitri got a star wars lego guy alarm clock as his birthday present.  I guess im a shitty parent becasue i only spent $40 on my six year old instead of $300 like our neighbor...  Personally i think 40 bucks is an insane price for a clock thats not from Pottery Barn, but aparently about 4 of his friends got a similar one just for the hell of it years ago. There goes all my thunder:(

I just want some friends for my kids that arent spoiled, and dont have EVERYTHING given to them.
THose kind of kids would be a joy to have for a playdate.  Then, maybe, if say, they break my son's brand new remote control car, that was one of THREE presents he got for Christmas from us that year, they would actually feel bad about it.

are they out there??!!








*I will add to this post that they ARE out there, and they happen to life one cul-de-sac away:)  Thank you God for sending my kids a friend for each kid, of the same age and gender, who are sweet and calm, and have Christian parents :)  What an answer to prayer!

From ''The Mouthy Housewives''

There is this wonderful blog I read called ''The Mouthy Housewives''. It's an advice blog (no psychotherapy, just woman to woman), and I LOVE IT!! Every so often they post a ''rant'' (see the connection!?) that they entitle ''Mouthing Off''...this post is today's ''Mouthing Off''. I found it so funny and true that I just had to share!! For those of you interested in the blog, I will post a link at the bottom of this post!! Enjoy!





MOUTHING OFF: Holiday Commercials

Oh, you know the ones I’m talking about.

Lexus.

Kay Jewelers.

That one where they won’t stop talking about ORGIES. (Or maybe it’s 4G. Whichever.)
They’re the ever-present car, jewelry, and gadget commercials that make us all feel like a steaming pile of reindeer poop. The ones that suggest you’re probably not a real husband or wife if you don’t fork out some serious cash for blood diamonds this year. I mean, the holiday season is stressful enough, wouldn’t you say? How the hell are we supposed to get into the spirit while being bombarded with images of hipster car drivers with a keen ear for obscure piano music and PDA-loving, diamond-adorned romance novel characters?

It’s CHRISTMASTIME, not Armageddon for crying out loud! In fact, just the other day, I was enjoying a moment of family harmony after dinnertime. In that brief, blissful five minute period, there were no quarters shoved in the Wii, no sweaty socks sitting on the dining room table, and no shrieks of horror bellowing from the laundry room. The four of us sat on the couch and clicked on the television for some educational programming when–BAM!Jane Seymour strikes again.Suddenly my husband was cursing under his breath about the impossible pressures that are placed on modern man while the children lamented the fact that our Christmas tree wasn’t topped with a Swarovski-studded star. I even found myself daydreaming about chocolate-covered diamonds and humming, “Every kiss begins with…STOP IT! STOP IT NOW!”

We tried to salvage the evening, but a few minutes later, we were subjected to that horrid Lexus commercial. You know the one.

(WHY IS THERE A CAR IN OUR LIVING ROOM?! I WANT A DIVORCE! )

I’m not sure what type of feeling it’s meant to evoke, but I’m guessing RAGE isn’t what the advertising executives had in mind. And yet that’s all I can manage to muster when I hear that insipid tune followed by a look of recognition and excitement on some 1%-er’s face. What is this 1953, and we’re all on an episode of Name That Tune? At this point, my family had all had quite enough. My husband flipped the couch over, the children set fire to the Christmas tree, and I went off to find the vodka I buried in the back yard. And as I lay there in the back yard, covered in dirt and mourning the days of Christmases past, I started scripting my own goddamn commercial in my head. Because who are these people who buy cars for Christmas, and where the hell do they get those ridiculous bows? WHERE? So here’s my version of a more realistic holiday commercial:
*****

Scene: A bickering couple rides in their building’s elevator, late for a holiday party. She digs in her purse for a tape recorder to play the Lexus theme music and surprise her husband.

Him: What the hell are you looking for? Don’t tell me you left your wallet in the apartment, because we are NOT going back, Meegan.

Her: OHJUSTSHUTUPANDLISTENTOTHISMUSICFORAMINUTE! [Presses play.]

Him: I can’t hear anything.

Her: [Banging on tape recorder.] Jesus. I think it’s broken.

(The elevator stops and opens. He walks out.)

Her: NO WAIT! Why are you always trying to ruin my surprises?!

Him: What surprise? [Spots car parked in front of the building with a red bow.] Ha! Getta load of this! Some asshole bought a $45,000 car for his wife. He probably didn’t even ask her first. Surprise honey, I spent your retirement! What an idiot!

Her: Um, SURPRISE, honey! That’s for you!

Him: [Incredulous.] That’s for ME?

Her: [Beaming with satisfaction.] Mmm-hmm!

Him: Why the…I don’t….I mean…it’s…RED. Why are you always trying to emasculate me?! And are those cloth seats? God, this is the worst Christmas ever.
FIN.
*****
THIS is your American clientele, Lexus. Get it right next year for Pete’s sake.

http://www.mouthyhousewives.com/

Jenny From the Stripper Pole!?

So the American Music Awards were on last night and since I'm a music lover I decided to watch. I should have went to bed instead....it was the worst spectacle I've seen in a long time! The clothes were bad, the music was bad (half the stuff I couldn't understand)...all in all the show itself was just a disappointment! The worst part to me was the way the women chose to portray themselves, I mean let's face it, young kids watch this (or at least thats the age group they are shooting for) and all they saw last night was trash! The worst to me was Jennifer Lopez (pic below). She performed (lip-synced probably) last night an outfit that was best left in a strip club! I mean, if I wanted to watch a 40-something year old woman strip, then grind her ass in the crotch of some rapper I would just go to...well I guess I wouldn't have to go anywhere, I just have to turn on my TV! Seriously NO CLASS AT ALL! Like I said the worst part to me is the young girls that watched this and thought ''thats what I have to look like/act like to be sexy''! In all the articles I've read online this morning about her performance I've seen the words ''riveting'', ''hot'', ''spectacular'', and ''full of energy'', but no where have I read the words ''trashy'', ''class-less'', or ''inappropriate''!!! Young girls need positive role models, not ones that dress up half nude or like drag queens **clears throat**(Christina Aguilera)! I personally do not care for Taylor Swift's music (not all of it anyways), but at least she has the good sense to not sell her body image over her music!! I know that I'm getting older (holding strong at 29!! lol), and have small kids, but I also know I'm not alone in my feelings! All I can hope for is I can do the best job in raising my babies to believe that each individual is unique and beautiful for who they are, not what they look like or wear...because obviously the music/movie/magazine/TV/media in general is not going to change any time soon!! **clears throat** Jersey Shore..enough said!!

You, Ma'am, are a dumbass.....

Here is a fun OWS article where you can clearly see the media bias.
http://news.yahoo.com/pregnant-teen-elderly-woman-among-pepper-sprayed-113054448.html;_ylt=Ak0XG1h8xx3tGO70.S_lyvms0NUE;_ylu=X3oDMTNqZWw0M29sBGNjb2RlA2N0LmMEcGtnAzU2ZTdlNDJiLTg4YmYtMzJiYi1hZGJhLTRlNDBkZDVhZTBjNQRwb3MDMQRzZWMDbW9zdF9wb3B1bGFyBHZlcgNiMWFhNDlhZS0xMDgxLTExZTEtOTNlZS1iZjlhYmY0MjVjODA-;_ylg=X3oDMTI3bzhoY2JpBGludGwDdXMEbGFuZwNlbi11cwRwc3RhaWQDBHBzdGNhdANob21lBHB0A3NlY3Rpb25zBHRlc3QDY29udHJvbF9ub3Byb21v;_ylv=3

The headline on Yahoo news was "Pregnant teen, elderly woman among pepper sprayed"
and here is the main photo:

Holy crap, I wanted to lose my mind!!

First!  Two months pregnant is not that pregnant.  You have just barely peed on a stick and probably havent even had a real prenatal appointment yet.

Second!  If you are pregnant, why the hell are you at a protest rally where people are assaulting police officers and marching down the streets???  This isnt a hippy sit in, where people bang drums and sing little tunes.  It was a violent march down city streets.  If you were really concerned about your unborn child, you would have avoided a possibly dangerous situation.

Third!  Its freaking pepper spray!  You dont need to go to the hospital.  There is absolutely nothing they can give you to fix it.  Cops use it to break up huge house parties of drunk teenagers, so you were not the victim of a violent act.

The article barely made mention of the fact that some people had thrown an unknown liquid at officers.  Others were engaging in "assaultive behavior"  towards officers.  You assholes are lucky you just got pepper sprayed!  If you tried that shit in south phoenix, your ass would be knocked to the ground.  Pretty sure that assaulting an officer is a felony, so you all should be glad you only got sprayed.

A priest, and an old liberal professional activist were also listed among the sprayed.  Hey, if you dont want to be lumped in with the criminals, DONT HANG OUT WITH THEM!  I bet the protesters on the sidelines, that werent in the street, or assaulting the cops didn't get sprayed at all.

Do you want this job or not?

Femminists ruin everything....  Take this latest sexual harrasment story in the news.  It destroys everything they worked for in Womans equality.  Will I explain?  of course:)

Personally, sometimes i wish this countrys value system went back in time to something of the old west.  If women worked back then, it was as a teacher, and their primary roll was running a home or raising children.  People stopped when they entered a room, and stood when they joined them at dinner.  Although not "equal" to men, they were respected and treated as precious.
Imagine, in that time period, if a woman was shopping, or out to dinner, and a man made a sexual comment to her.  Of course she would be horrified, becasue it wouldnt be appropriate, and would tell him so.  What she had to do would stop there though.  If any man was in the vicinity, they would most likely approach the asshole and demand an apology, or take him outside and beat his ass.  No one just came up and talked to women like that!
Over the years, women have fought for their right to vote, and right to work  To femminists it was insulting to be treated as the weaker sex, and they demanded equality.
Fast forward to today.  All of these years, and all of these changes to who women are in society, and in the workplace, and they are working backwards.  If you truly think you are equal to men, this victim approach to sexual harrasment is bullshit.  Sadly, most men arent allowed to open the door for female co-workers, so they definitely arent going to fight for your honor... so they are out of the equation.  Time to take matters into your own hands ladies!  Are you powerful enough to run a department, and savy enough to make your company money?   Well then you sure as shit can walk over to Dan in accounting and tell him to stop forwarding you jokes you find offensive!!  And you definitely can let some co-worker know that their comments have gone too far and you dont appreciate it.   You ARENT allowed to take a "How dare he!" approach, though.  You fought for your right to be equal to him in the workplace, and have given up your "delicate preciousness"... so deal with it.

on a side note, wouldnt it be nice if you didnt have to deal with it though??   It would be so nice to just have a fellow co-worker take him out back and defend your honor...lol   Ya, that doesnt happen anymore though:)

What YAHOO Considers News

Here are the top ''news'' stories on Yahoo today:



#1--Five Married Women On Why They Cheated
#2--Actress Passed Up For 'Notebook' Role
#3--The Shoe Styles Every Woman Should Own
#4--Police, Protesters Clash Again In Oakland
#5--Kim's Red Carpet Return Raises Eyebrows
#6--Beyonce's Unquie 5 Inch Heels
#7--How Kim K. Told Mom About Divorce


I could go on, but let's just say this...FOUR (did you hear that) four out of the top forty eight news stories were actually about important shit!! Seriously, who gives a shit why women cheated on their husbands!? It doesn't affect me and my marriage (or anyone else's I know for that matter)! I mean, I like shoes just as much as the next girl, but come'on, it's not news! And as far as Kim K. and that train wreck, I am personally tired of hearing about it. I could really give a rats ass whether or not that waste of brain cells staged that wedding for publicity or not! She is insignificant and cheap...I mean she is famous really for nothing right!?
There is so much going on in America and around the world right now and THIS shit is what Yahoo considers news!? I truly am shocked they are still one of the #1 news sources on the Internet! I do not care for MsNBC (I personally think they are VERY one-sided politically) but I am about to make them my home page just so when I go online to read the news, I actually get the news (no matter how one-sided it is)! Come on people...America is in the shitter, we should demand better out of our news sources. I'm not talking about politics necessarily, but news! Ya know how about child hunger in AMERICA, under performing schools in AMERICA, unemployment in AMERICA and how it's affecting everyday people not politicians, health care and rising insurance rates in AMERICA, our troops still in war in Afghanistan (all the news is focusing on is the troops leaving Iraq) ect... There are real problems out there that NO ONE in the news follows, not because they don't know about it, but because bullshit politics is what gives ratings! All the back and forth bickering and backstabbing is what makes money...it's such a sad state we are in here and it seems like no one is willing to take the high road and put the focus where it needs to be! I'm in no way ashamed to be an American, but I can honestly say I am ashamed of the way our information/Internet/news media ect... is ran! When I win the lottery I am gonna buy a TV station and finally give news to the common American that the common American wants and deserves!!